Spinsterhood

The phenomenon of spinsterhood and the aversion of many youth to marry have serious and dangerous psychological, economic, social, moral and behavioral consequences that affect the entire Ummah (nation). This is especially so in this era where there are many temptations and deviated means of satisfying desires. Thus, Sharee‘ah-approved marriage is the only way to protect a person from deviation and from slipping into vice and moral corruption. It is an issue of honor, virtue and vice.
This tragedy, making marriage difficult and placing hindrances in its way, entails various religious and worldly harms and violations:

Its Religious Effects
1. Hindering a purpose of creation, which is to grant people succession [to authority] upon the earth. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means):
* {And [mention, O Muhammad], when your Lord said to the angels: ‘Indeed, I will make upon the earth a successive authority.’} [Quran 2:30]

* {It is He Who has made you successors upon the earth.}[Quran 35:39]
This verse means that you will succeed one other, one generation after the other, and this succession can only be achieved by having offspring through lawful marriage. Thus, hindering marriage is considered a violation of an aim of Allaah The Almighty.
2. Violating the orders of Allaah The Exalted who ordered that virgins should be given in marriage and who urged the young men to hasten to marriage. Thus, the state that both men and women have reached nowadays is considered a direct violation of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means):
* {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.} [Quran 30:21]

* {And Allaah has made for you from yourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allaah they disbelieve?} [Quran 16:72]
* {And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allaah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allaah Is All-Encompassing and Knowing.} [Quran 24:32]
In a Hadeeth on the authority of Ibn Mas‘ood may Allaah be pleased with him the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:
“O young men! Those among you who are capable of getting married should get married as this is better for lowering the gaze and maintaining chastity. However, those who are not capable of that should fast, as fasting would extinguish their desire.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

Ibn Mas‘ood may Allaah be pleased with him said: “If I knew that there were only ten days left in my life and I was capable of getting married, I would get married because of my fear of Fitnah (trials).”
Imaam Ahmad may Allaah have mercy upon him said, “Celibacy has nothing to do with Islam and the one who urges you not to get married would be inducing you to something other than Islam.” This is why ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab may Allaah be pleased with him said to a man who did not marry, “What would prevent a man from getting married except a defect or immorality?”
3. Decreasing the number of Muslims and violating the commands of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, who said:
“Marry women who are affectionate and very prolific [in giving birth], for I shall outnumber the other peoples [followers of other prophets] by you.”[Abu Daawood and others - Saheeh]

4. Blocking all means of good deeds and reward. This applies to both men and women who do not marry:
* They are deprived of the reward of giving their children a good upbringing.
* They are deprived of the reward of good treatment (from the husband to the wife and vice versa) and the woman would not be able to obtain the reward of being a good wife to her husband.
* They would be deprived of a righteous child who would be dutiful to them in their life and who would supplicate to Allaah The Almighty for them after their death. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “When the son of Aadam dies, his deeds will all come to an end, except for three: continuous charity, knowledge from which people derive benefit from, and a righteous child who would supplicate Allaah for him.”
5. Blocking the way of sustenance. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:
“Three [types of people] will be helped by Allaah: the one who fights in the way of Allaah [the Mujaahid], the one who wants to get married in order to preserve his chastity and the subject of a self-emancipating contract who wants to pay off his debt.”

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