The difference between Love and a Haraam Relationship

Question: I am a 24 years old girl. I fell in love, no dates, no meetings involved, pure love to a pure religious person. He promised to marry me and asked me to wait for him as his circumstances are difficult. I do not remember that he called me more than once. I asked him not to call me; because I feel this is wrong, although I love him. I felt that our love started going in the direction, he agreed to this feeling, and respected my opinion. He just sends me E-mails every so often via internet, so that I know his news. We have been in this love relationship for one year. I know this person and his family, and they know us well as well. I love him for Allah’s sake and sure he loves me as well. The problem is that I started receiving proposals, about 8 so far. Every time I refuse because I promised to wait for him. Now I am confused, is what I am doing halal or haram? I pray, Alhamdulillah, all obligatory and optional prayers, and pray qiyaam in the night as well; I fear I lose my good deeds because of what I am doing. Is a pure chaste love haram? Is my love to him halal or haram?.

Answer: Praise be to Allaah.

First of all I ask Allaah to guide you and grant you happiness, and I ask Him to increase the numbers of girls like you who are keen to maintain chastity and purity and adhere to the sacred limits of Allaah in their affairs, among the most important of which are emotional relationships that many people take lightly, so they overstep the mark and transgress the sacred limits of Allaah, and Allaah tests them with problems that we read about and hear of, in which there is a lesson for every Muslim and for every wise person.

You should note that correspondence and contact between the sexes is one of the doors that lead to fitnah (temptation). Sharee’ah is filled with evidence which indicates that it is essential to beware of falling into the traps of the shaytaan in this matter. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw a young man merely looking at a young woman, he turned his head so as to make him look away, then he said: “I saw a young man and a young woman, and I did not trust the shaytaan not to tempt them.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (885) and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

Hence you did well to cut off contact with this young man, and we hope that you will stop corresponding too, because correspondence is one of the greatest doors to corruption that have been opened for people nowadays. This has been discussed in a number of questions.

This does not mean that it is haraam for a man or woman to like a specific person whom he or she chooses to be a spouse, and feel love for that person and want to marry them if possible. Love has to do with the heart, and it may appear in a person’s heart for reasons known or unknown. But if it is because of mixing or looking or haraam conversations, then it is also haraam. If it is because of previous acquaintance, being related or because of hearing about that person, and one cannot ward it off, then there is nothing wrong with that love, so long as one adheres to the sacred limits set by Allaah.

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
If love develops for a reason that is not haraam, a person cannot be blamed for that, such as one who loves his wife or his slave woman, then he leaves her but that love remains and does not leave him. He is not to be blamed for that. The same applies if he glances accidentally then looks away, but love may settle in his heart without him wanting it to. But he has to ward it off and look away. End quote.
Rawdat al-Muhibbeen (p. 147).

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
A person may hear that a woman is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable, so he may want to marry her. Or a woman may hear that a man is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she may want to marry him. But contact between the two who admire one another in ways that are not Islamically acceptable is the problem, which leads to disastrous consequences. In this case it is not permissible for the man to get in touch with the woman or for the woman to get in touch with the man, and say that he wants to marry her. Rather he should tell her wali (guardian) that he wants to marry her, or she should tell her wali that she wants to marry him, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them both). But if the woman contacts the man directly, this is what leads to fitnah (temptation). End quote.
Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh (26/question no. 13)

Our advice to you is that it is essential to stop corresponding with this young man, and tell him that he has to propose to you through your wali, if he really does want to get married. He should not regard his material circumstances or anything else as a barrier. The matter is simple, in sha Allaah, and if a person is content with little, Allaah will make him independent of means by His grace and bounty. He should at least contact your wali and do the shar’i marriage contract, and if the consummation is delayed there is nothing wrong with that. But if it remains as a promise to get married, ande correspondence continues between you on that basis, this – according to the rulings of sharee’ah and the experience of real life – is a wrong path that opens the door to sin and corruption. You can be certain that you will never find happiness except by obeying Allaah and adhering to the limits set by his sharee’ah. The permissible ways are sufficient and there is no need for haraam means, but we make it hard for ourselves and the shaytaan takes advantage of that.

Your delay in getting married is very harmful for you. You are getting older and this young man’s circumstances are not improving; you are not marrying him and you are not marrying anyone else. Beware of delaying, for that will only cause harm. You should realize that one of these men who have proposed marriage may be more religiously committed and righteous than that young man, and there may be far greater love with him than there is between you and that young man.

And Allaah knows best.

Taken from Islamqa

There is a time of night

In The name of Allah,The Most Merciful,The Most gracious

There is a time of night

There is a time of night when the whole world transforms. During the day, chaos often takes over our lives. The responsibilities of work, school, and family dominate much of our attention. Other than the time we take for the five daily prayers, it is hard to also take time out to reflect or even relax. Many of us live our lives at such a fast pace, we may not even realize what we’re missing.
But there is a time of night when work ends, traffic sleeps, and silence is the only sound. At that time—while the world around us sleeps—there is One who remains awake and waits for us to call on Him. We are told in the hadith qudsi:
“Our Lord descends during the last third of each night to the lower heaven, and says: ‘Is there anyone who calls on Me that I may respond to him? Is there anyone who asks Me that I may give unto him? Is there anyone who requests My Forgiveness that I may forgive him?’” (Bukhari and Muslim)
One can only imagine what would happen if a king were to come to our door, offering to give us anything we want. One would think that any sane person would at least set their alarm for such a meeting. If we were told that at exactly one hour before dawn a check for $10,000,000 would be left at our doorstep, would we not wake up to take it?
Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) has told us that at this time of night, just before dawn, He will come to His servants. Imagine this. The Lord of the universe has offered us a sacred conversation with Him. That Lord waits for us to come speak with Him, and yet many of us leave Him waiting while we sleep in our beds. Allah (swt) comes to us and asks what we want from Him. The Creator of all things has told us that He will give us whatever we ask.
And yet we sleep.
There will come a day when this veil of deception will be lifted. The Qur’an says:
“[It will be said], You were certainly in unmindfulness of this, and We have removed from you your cover, so your sight, this Day, is sharp.” (Qur’an 50:22).
On that Day, we will see the true reality. On that Day, we will realize that two rak`at (units) of prayer were greater than everything in the heavens and the earth. We will realize the priceless check that was left on our doorstep every night as we slept. There will come a day when we would give up everything under the sky just to come back and pray those two rak`at.
There will come a day when we would give up everything we ever loved in this life, everything that preoccupied our hearts and minds, every mirage we ran after, just to have that conversation with Allah. But on that Day, there will be some from whom Allah (swt) will turn away… and forget, as they had once forgotten Him.
The Qur’an says:
“He will say, ‘My Lord, why have you raised me blind while I was [once] seeing?’ [Allah] will say, ‘Thus did Our signs come to you, and you forgot them; and thus will you this Day be forgotten.’” (Qur’an, 20:125-126) In Surat al-Mu’minoon, Allah says: “Do not cry out today. Indeed, by Us you will not be helped.” (Qur’an, 23:65)
Can you imagine for a moment what these ayat (verses) are saying? This is not about being forgotten by an old friend or classmate. This is about being forgotten by the Lord of the worlds. Not hellfire. Not boiling water. Not scalded skin. There is no punishment greater than this.
And as there is no punishment greater than this, there is no reward greater than what the Prophet (SAW) describes in the following hadith:
“When those deserving of Paradise would enter Paradise , the Blessed and the Exalted would ask: Do you wish Me to give you anything more? They would say: Hast Thou not brightened our faces? Hast Thou not made us enter Paradise and saved us from Fire? He would lift the veil, and of things given to them nothing would be dearer to them than the sight of their Lord, the Mighty and the Glorious.” [Sahih Muslim]
But one does not need to wait until that Day to know the result of this nighttime meeting with Allah (swt). The truth is, there are no words to describe the overwhelming peace in this life from such a conversation. One can only experience it to know. Its effect on one’s life is immeasurable. When you experience qiyam, the late night prayer the rest of your life transforms. Suddenly, the burdens that once crushed you become light. The problems that were irresolvable become solved. And that closeness to your Creator, which was once unreachable, becomes your only lifeline.

A Message To Muslim Youth by Br. Wisam Shareiff

Br. Wisam Sharieff advises the youth to take that first step after asking for guidance from ALLAH, and open up the Quran to know what it has to offer, and it's interesting cause the very first Surah u'll find is Surah Fatihah, in which after the believer praising his All Mighty master ALLAH, and asks for guidance, ALLAH in the very next Surah (Surah Baqarah) says

This is the book about which there is no doubt, a guidance for those conscious of ALLAH[Surah Al-Baqarah Chap#2 Verse# 2]
 The people who are conscious of ALLAH are the one's who have taqwa i.e who have piety, righteousness, fear and love of ALLAH, and who take great care to avoid HIS displeasure.

Leaving that does not concern you


By Nathim Sultan

Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated:
The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said, what translated means, 'A sign of one's excellence in his Islam, is ignoring what does not concern him.' [Related by Ahmad, Malik & At-Tirmidhi]

The Status of this Hadith

Ibn Rajab said,
 'This Hadith is a basic and an important source of good behavior in Islam.'

Mohammad ibn Zayd, a great scholar of the Maliki Madthab, said,
 'Four Hadiths comprise a perfect code of conduct. One of them is,
'Whoever believes in Allah and His Messenger should say that which is useful or keep silent.'

Another Hadith is when the Prophet said to the man who sought his advice,
'Avoid getting angry.'

A third is the Hadith,
The believer loves for his (believing) brother what he loves for himself.'

The fourth is the above Hadith.'
A Sign of Excellence in Islam

A sign of one's excellence in the religion is his ignoring what does not concern him, including all things said or done. The Muslim should only participate in what concerns him, such as anything that is his property, right, obligation or under his control. To be concerned with something entails preserving and taking care of this thing that one is allowed to be concerned with.

As for the matters that do not concern one, they are in abundance. Usually, when a person tries to interfere in such matters that do not concern him, the tool frequently used for this is the tongue. Muslims are ordered to utter only good words, for Allah said, what translated means,
'Not a word he (man) utters, but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it).' [Noble Quran 50:18]

Many people ignore the fact that in Islam, words are considered actions. Such people care not to preserve their tongues from uttering evil or nonsense. Mu'adth ibn Jabal did not know the importance of discretion in the words one utters, so he asked the Prophet,
'Are we going to be held responsible for what we say' The Prophet answered, 'May your mother lose you! What else will lead people to be dragged in the Fire on their faces, but the result of what they utter with their tongues.' [Irwa' al-Ghalil]

An-Nawawi said in his book, 'Riyadh as-Salihin',
'Know that everyone should only talk about what might lead to benefit. When talking and being silent are equal in benefit, then theSunnah is to be silent. This is because to be talkative will usually lead to uttering evil, even if it starts with seemingly harmless words. One should always be on the safe side, a state that is indeed desired.'

When a person utters only good words, he gains respect in his community. Likewise, if he is talkative and nosy, disrespect and a bad reputation are the result.

This Hadith indicates that ignoring what does not concern one, is a sign of his excellence in the religion. Being successful in working the righteous deeds and gaining an increase in the number of good deeds are all results of this better behavior. The number of sins will also decrease if one protects his tongue from uttering evil. Abu Hurairah said,
'If you improve your Islam, then every good deed you work will increase (and will be multiplied) by ten folds to seven hundred times in reward. On the other hand, each sin is recorded according to its weight, until one meets Allah, the Exalted One.' [Muslim]

Ignoring What Does Not Concern You
The only way to know right from wrong is through the Islamic Shari'ah (Law). What one wishes and desires do not count in this regard. The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) has considered the one who ignores what does not concern him to be an excellent Muslim. Therefore, Islam alone must be consulted to define what does or does not concern a Muslim. Because many Muslims do not depend on the Shari'ah to define what they can or cannot participate in, they sometimes abandon their obligations or what they are supposed to do or say, thinking that this is not of their concern. They sometimes defy the rules of the religion by not advising their Muslim brothers, thinking that this also is not of their concern. Or, they indulge in what does not concern them, thinking that this is their concern. To get out of this confusion, one should always consult the Shari'ah to know what he is supposed to do or say.

Benefits from the Hadith
1. This Hadith encourages Muslims to use the time in a manner that brings about their benefit in this life and in the Hereafter

2. Muslims should always be concerned with what is beneficial and constructive, and should avoid what does not bring about benefit and what does not preserve the honor

3. This Hadith also encourages Muslims to strive hard to discipline their behavior, and to reject and abandon sins, dishonor and what brings about disrespect

4. This Hadith also ordains avoiding interfering with other people's affairs, for unwarranted interference with other people's business causes divisions and hatred among Muslims

How to make your Husband happy ?

How to make your Husband happy ?
Taken from "How to Make Your Husband Happy" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed
1. Beautiful Reception
After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,

  • Begin with a good greeting.

  • Meet him with a cheerful face

  • Beautify and perfume yourself

  • Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested

  • Receive him with loving and yearning sentences

  • Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.
    2. Beautify and Soften the Voice
    For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)
    3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
    • Take good care of your body and fitness.
    • Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
    • Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.
    • Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape
    • Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoos
    • Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes
    • Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.
    4. Intercourse
    • Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.
    • Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.
    • Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
    • Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.
    • Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.
    5. Satisfaction With What Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) Has Allotted
    • You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job
    • You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) for all that was given to you.
    • You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.
    6. Indifference to Worldly Things
    • You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
    • You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
    • Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the Hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Al-Jannah).
    • Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
    7. Appreciation
    • By the saying of the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
    • The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
    • The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: "Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates? "
    8. Devotion and Loyalty
    • In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
    • Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
    9. Compliance to Him
    • In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram)
    • In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.
    10. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry

    First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:
    • If you were mistaken, then apologize
    • If he was mistaken then:
         Keep still instead of arguing or
          Yield you right or
          Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.

    • If he was angry because of external reasons then:
          Keep silent until his anger goes
          Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him

    • Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened e.g.
          1) You should tell me what happened!
          2) I must know what made you so angry!
          3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!
    11. Guardianship While He is Absent
    • Protect yourself from any prohibited relations
    • Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know.
    • Take care of the house and children.
    • Take care of his money and properties
    • Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijaab
    • Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
    • Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place
    • Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence
    12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
    • You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
    • You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
    • You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife
    • Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
    • Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home
    • Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc...
    13. Admirable Jealousy
    • Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others disrespecting them, etc…
    • You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
    14. Patience and Emotional Support
    • Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
    • When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, his and your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
    • When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested etc.
    • Be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of Paradise.
    • When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment.
    15. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad
    • Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
    • Encourage him to pray at night.
    • Listen and reciting the Qur'aan individually and with your husband.
    • Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.
    • Remember Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa, much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
    • Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.
    • Learn Islamic rules (ahkaam) and good manners ('adab) for women.
    • Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
    • Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah
    • Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah, subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa.
    16. Good Housekeeping
    • Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged
    • Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom
    • Perfect food (preparation) and prepare healthy foods
    • Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing
    • Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.
    17. Preservation of Finances and the Family
    • Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
    • Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
    • Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.

  • True Story: Why Was My Iman Low ? [Especially for the Youth]

    Many years ago, I was in front of the computer. 

    I kept going back and forth, back and forth to the computer to check if my Pre Calculus grade was posted yet or not.

    I just kept thinking to myself, “ I have to get an A, I have to get an A, I have to get A”.

    I was becoming a bit crazy. Day after day, my other grades were being posted, except for the Pre-Calculus grade. I was becoming very impatient.

    Who would ever have guessed that during this time, Allaah would guide me to understanding a great lesson of life.

    As I was saying, I kept jumping in and out if front of the computer waiting for my grade. I started to get very worried and distressed. “ What if I don’t get an A?..” I kept thinking to myself. I replayed in my mind how I performed in the final over and over, and kept thinking about the questions that I thought were a little confusing.
    I don’t remember if at that moment, I told myself that the grade in this test doesn’t determine my status in the Akhirah, the hereafter. I didn’t question why I was getting so distressed.
      Why did I get so distressed for things with the dunya so much ? Why ?
       Why is this dunya so important for me ? is this something between Heaven and Hell ?
       If I did receive an A, would that gain me rewards or would I gain Allaah’s love and pleasure?

    All of my other grades were in the “A” range, and I had to find out what I got for math. The thought of not getting an “A” was choking me. 

    As I sat in front of the computer, waiting and waiting.. I fell across the story of Hajir online in the book “ The Ideal Muslimah” .

    Ironically, the very first statements of the book were : “ The Believing Woman is Alert
    One of the most prominent distinguishing features of the Muslim woman is her deep faith in Allah (SWT), and her sincere conviction that whatever happens in this universe, and whatever fate befalls human beings, only happens through the will and decree of Allah (SWT); whatever befalls a person could not have been avoided, and whatever does not happen to a person could not have been made to happen. A person has no choice in this life but to strive towards the right path and to do good deeds - acts of worship and other acts - by whatever means one can, putting all his trust in Allah (SWT), submitting to His will, and believing that he is always in need of Allah's (SWT) help and support.”

    After I read these statements, I felt terrible about how I had been acting.
      Why didn’t I have full trust and conviction in Allaah ? 
      I studied hard for the test and the rest is up to Allaah. Why was I getting so distressed about something of this dunya ? 
       Did I ever act this way regarding my prayers ? 
       Did I ever act this way for the fact that I didn’t wear the complete hijab ? 
       Did I ever act this way because I didn’t honor my parents enough ? 
       Did I ever get this distressed because I don’t have enough knowledge of Islam?

    As I continued to read, it had the story of Hajir. How Hajir was left by Prophet Ibrahim ( peace be upon him ) in the middle of the desert with their young baby.

    The book had the statements: “ Hajar had no-one with her except her infant son Isma`il. She asked Ibrahim, calmly and with no trace of panic: "Has Allah (SWT) commanded you to do this, O Ibrahim?" Ibrahim ( peace be upon him )said, "Yes." Her response reflected her acceptance and optimism: "Then He is not going to abandon us." “ 

    After I read the few sentences of the book, all my senses opened up. Not only that, my heart opened.
    How do I know that ? Because I started to cry. I cried and cried about how low my iman was.

    Astaghfirullah, look at the way I was acting. I was waiting for a simple math grade, and I was going crazy with no patience ! Look at Hajir, left in the middle of the desert with no food and no water and she had complete trust and faith in Allaah ! “

      I realized that my iman was low. Where do I stand compared to women like Hajir ? Where do I stand compared to Asiya when she was being tortured by her husband , Fir’awn, and still had patience ? Where do I stand compared to Ayiesha when she was being wrongly slandered and rumors were spreading about her ? Where do I stand compared to Mariam when she had the miracle child without a father and had to face the people ? Why was my iman so low ? Why did I often find myself becoming extremely distressed and impatient for the things in this dunya ?

    Sometime later, I discovered that I did get an “A” on Pre Calculus. 

    “What was all the fuss about ?” I think to myself. “ What if I didn’t get an “A” ? So what ? I could try harder next time. “ 

    Why didn’t I have patience as Allaah has commanded us to have? 

    After that period in my life, I started to work harder on my prayers, wearing hijab correctly, learning Islam, and etc.

    I finally started to try my best to putting Allaah first before everything else. Brothers and Sisters, don’t forget what Allaah states in the Quran: “And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine...” [al-Talaaq 65:2,3]. 

    Look at how Allaah provided for Hajir at that time ! Her response to her husband at that difficult moment was that Allaah wouldn’t abandon her family. Allaahuakbar ! How many of us respond like that at times of distress ? 

    Brothers and Sisters, don’t put the dunya before the Akhirah. Remember, if you do something for the pleasure of Allaah, Allaah will take care of you. We will always find ourselves in difficult situations, which is not a surprise because this is the dunya. 

    Insha’Allaah , let’s strive our best to struggle in worshiping Allaah according to the Qur’aan and authentic Sunnah. That is true success. Insha’Allaah, in Jannah, everything will be perfect. Remember, our goal is pleasure in Jannah, not pleasure in this dunya. 

    I try to remember this statement I had heard in a lecture, “ Islam should not revolve around your life, your life should revolve around Islam. “ 

    Source: Ideal Muslimah

    The Islamic Ruling on Music and Singing: Part 3. [Especially Directed towards the Youth]


    In his tafseer, Imam Al-Qurtubi mentions that there are three verses which have been used by the ulaama as proof of the contempt for and the prohibition of singing. 


    The first of these verses appears in Soorah An-Najm(*23) as follows:

    Allah, the Blessed and Exalted, addresses the disbelievers from the tribe of Quraysh,  
    {Do you marvel at this statement, and laugh and do not weep, while you amuse yourselves [proudly] in vanities? Rather, prostrate before Allah and worship Him.}

    The important phrase is Allah's saying,
    {Wa antum saamidoon} ("while you amuse yourselves [proudly] in vanities).
    Due to the root 'samada' having various interpretations in the Arabic language, the scholars differ about this phrase's meaning. As a result, different interpretations are given by the commentators of the Quraan, such as the companions, taabi'een and later scholars of tafseer. 

    Al-Qurtubi refers to the various derived meanings mentioned by the linguists (*24). Among the meanings understood from the root' samada' is the raising of one's head up proudly or in disdain. When conjugated, the noun form 'sumood' means leisure or idle play, while 'saamid' (the doer of the action) means one who plays idly with musical instruments or other objects of play. It is said to the singing girl, "Asmideena!"("Amuse us with your singing!") However, 'saamid' can also designate one who lifts his head in pride and haughtiness, as mentioned in the ancient dictionary, As-Sihah.(*25) A further meaning derived from the root 'samada' is the notion of standing motion less or idle. This was mentioned by Al-Mathdawi,(*26) one of the famous grammarians, but he added that the common, established meaning in the language points to the idea of turning away by making fun and amusement. Finally, Al-Mubarrid mentions the meaning of 'saamidoon' saying, "Saamidoon means khaamidoon [silent, motionless]."(*27) 

    At-Tabari mentions in detail the various narrations traced to the sahaabah and taabi'een.(*28) According to Ibn Abbaas, the word 'saamidoon' in this verse refers to the mushrikeen's habit of singing and playing noisily whenever they heard the Quraan being recited, in order to drown out the reciter's voice so that others wouldn't hear it.(*29) This meaning is used by the people of Yemen. Ibn Abbas also indicated a second, more general meaning for the word 'saamidoon'; namely, that they were playing and amusing themselves and making light of the affair. The same opinion was held by some taabi'een such as Ikrimah and Ad-Dahhaak. A third meaning given by Ibn Abbaas is that they held their heads up in pride. Other tabi'een have indicated certain meanings similar to the preceding linguists' views. Thus, Qataadah reports Al-Hasan as saying that 'samidoon' is the mushrikeen's being inattentive and negligent. Mujaahid says it indicates their being in a state of extreme anger or rage. 

    Clearly, the term 'saamidoon' has various possible meanings, e.g that those referred to were singing noisily and amusing themselves with music and idle play, that they were holding their heads in pride, or that they were exhibiting extreme anger and hatred for what they heard of the Quraan and the message of Islam. Furhermore, it could indicate that they were indifferent, negligent and rejectionist in their attitude. All of these meanings are possible, and are not - in essence - contradictory. Most likely, 'saamidoon' is a comprehensive description of their different reactions upon hearing the verses of the Quraan and the new message of tawheed. However, it must be said that when a Quranic term yields a number of different possible meanings and we have no clear, authentically-reported statement from the Prophet defining it in a strict sense, then such a verse containing the said term cannot be used as an unequivocal, decisive proof (daleelun qat'ee) of any particular meaning. Thus, this verse cannot stand alone as an uncontestable proof of the prohibition of singing, music, etc. Rather, other evidence, either from the Quraan itself or from the authentic sunnah, must prove such a position.(*30)

    They were youths, yet mature youths.

    "...They were youths, yet mature youths, their eyes fresh and free of evil, their feet refrained from approaching falsehood and futility.

    They sacrificed and expended themselves in worship and in withholding themselves from sleep. They sold their souls which were to pass away for souls which would never die.

    Allaah saw them in the latter part of the night, bending their backs, reciting the Qur'aan. Whenever one of them came to an Aayah mentioning Paradise, he would weep, longing for it. Whenever he came upon an Aayah mentioning the fire he would groan out of fear, as if the Hell-fire were directly in front of him.

    The earth devoured their knees their hands and their foreheads (out of their constant prostration). They joined exhaustion in the night with exhaustion in the day. Their colour becoming yellowed and their bodies emaciated through standing long in prayer and frequent fasting - whilst they regarded their own actions to be negligible before Allaah.

    They fulfilled their covenant with Allaah and attained Allaah's promise."

    So let us hasten to be like them and to resemble them, since, as it was said: We are not in comparison to those who came before except like small herbs growing beside the trunks of tall palm trees.

    And as 'Abdullaah Ibn al-Mubaarak said: Do not mention us whilst mentioning them, the fit and healthy when he walks is not like the crippled.

    Project Real Islam: What is the first (religious) obligation on worshipers?

    A----- The first religious obligation on worshipers is to realize the purpose for which ALLAH the ALMGHTY created them; and for which HE took their covenant and sent them HIS Messengers and Books; and for which HE created this present life, The Hereafter, Paradise and Hell-Fire; and for which the Inevitable would come true; and the Event would befall; and for which the Balance is set and the Records fly; and for which there would be either happiness or misery; and according to which the lights would be divided, for any to whom ALLAH gives not light, there will be no light for him.

    Sunnah of Eating (Masnoon Way)

    Sunnah of Eating (Masnoon Way)

    Observe the following Sunan for Eating:

             1.       Pronounce The Tasmiyah:
                 Transliteration: BISMILLAHH

             2.       Eat with the right hand.

             3.       Eat from what is in front of you.

    These three Sunan has been recorded in one Hadeeth:
    O young man, mention the Name of ALLAH, eat with your right and eat from what is in front of you.[Muslim, The book of Drinks, Hadeeth 2022]

             4.       If some food drops, clean it and then eat it:
    If one of you dropped a morsel of food, then remove from it whatever there if of dirt and then eat it… [Muslim, The book of Drinks, Hadeeth 2034]

             5.       Eat with three fingers:
    The Prophet Muhammad[P.B.U.H] used to eat with three fingers. This was his [P.B.U.H]’s way of eating and is better, unless a need requires otherwise.[Muslim, The book of Drinks, Hadeeth 2032]

             6.       The etiquette of sitting when eating:
    a.       Kneel on one’s shins and frint of the feet, or
    b.      Keep the right leg upright and sit on the left
    This is what is preferred as was mentioned by Al-Haafidh ibn Hajar in Fath Al-Baaree.

    7.       Observe the following Sunan after eating:
    a.    Lick the bowl and the fingers:
    The Prophet Muhammad [P.B.U.H] ordered the licking of the fingers and bowl, and he said:
    Verily, You do not know in which of it (i.e. which morsel of food) is the blessing. [Muslim, The book of Drinks, Hadeeth 2033]

    b.      Praise ALLAH:
    Verily, ALLAH is pleased with the slave who eats his food and praises ALLAH for it…[Muslim, The book of Drinks, Hadeeth 2734]

    And the supplication of the Prophet Muhammad [P.B.U.H] is:


    From the benefits of this Du’aa is that:
    The person’s past sins will be forgiven[At-Tirmidhee, The Book of Supplications, Hadeeth 2458. Ibn Maajah, The Book of Food, Hadeeth 3285.Shaykh Al-Albaanee graded the narration as good.]

    Medical Benefits of Sunnah Way of Eating:

    If you read the latest research for siting like the Sunnah mentioned above, you will be amazed to know that it helps people having stomach and eating problems, especially the sitting position will allow them to eat less and in a limit (most probably 1/3)

    For people out there who have bad eating habits, and they are really worried over eating in a limit, they should try the Sunnah etiquette of sitting while eating. One of them being highlighted in the above picture. This will help by pressing the stomach with the help of the right leg so that it feels as if your stomach is already 2/3 filled(which it isn't) and only 1/3 of the space is left to eat. This position will also help in consuming 1/3 of something to drink and 1/3 to breathe as was done by the Prophet Muhammad [P.B.U.H]

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